Sorry, this is a bit of a rant….
Being the mother of two children with multiple allergies I always get the impression that other parents/people think I’m just being precious and over-protective of my children and it’s a non-existent problem that exists in my head. People tend to look at you as if you are crazy when you mention allergies, I’m sure they think that it’s a made-up modern world issue and we’re just being controlling. I think on the whole the first reaction from other people is one of suspicion, rather than taking you seriously. This isn’t just how I feel – in the latest Anaphylaxis Campaign Magazine other parents express the same sentiments.
I think this is especially the case with a dairy allergy (and multiple allergies) – somehow, people can understand the serious nature of a nut allergy, but an allergy to milk is just incomprehensible. To some extent I blame those people with ‘allergies’ who say “oh I shouldn’t because I’m allergic, but oh go on, I’ll just have a little” – in our experience a true allergy means complete avoidance is necessary, having ‘a little’ of something is not on the cards.
An allergy may change your life, indeed constrain some parts of it, but it doesn’t make you some weirdo who doesn’t fit into society. In fact, I think it’s far more important for someone (especially a child) with an allergy to feel that they are the same as everyone else, just someone who eats slightly different foods and who will not be judged for having to speak out.
Ok, now thats off my chest…. rant over!
4 Responses
Believe me, you’re not imagining it! I managed a Naturpath Doctor’s office for a few years. Food allergies are making people severely ill and explain a lot of things and people don’t even realize it until it’s brought to their attention. It’s frightening really. Another sad part that I have suffered through and many others, is even family members (especially extended ones) are not always supportive. Sometimes are they not only not supportive, but they are down right nasty about it. It’s unfortunate. But for those of us with food allergies…I will take someone rolling their eyes at me or complaining about how “food allergies are just in people’s heads” over feeling like absolute death for a week after consuming dairy or gluten.
I’m not rude about it, nor do I throw it in people’s faces, or make a huge drama out of it at restaurants. Some people do those things and I can see how it would be irritating. I know my own body well and I will treat it well, regardless of what others think. And when it comes to your children? Mom’s (good ones) have a 6th sense about their children. Let people think you’re crazy, controlling, and roll their eyes at you all they want. You’re the winner in the long run because your children will be safe, happy, and healthy. There’s no substitute for that! 🙂
It’s reassuring to hear it’s not just me, but also sad that others feel the same way. I guess it’s just something you have to live with if you have allergies – how sad is that! Your words are very wise, thanks for the confidence boost! 🙂
I am travelling on a similar journey, thank you for articulating what I feel. I was told by one mum, at least my child “doesn’t have cancer” and you have to “deal with what you are given”, so nice for her to say, both of her children are healthy. Starting my blog has opened my eyes and ears to women out there that are walking in my shoes, and I find stories and recipes keep me going. My son loves food, so this is a great motivator and the blog inspires me to be more adventurous. Looking forward to tracking your posts!
Best wishes
Charmaine
Thanks for your lovely comments. It’s a hard path to follow and so few people really understand…..
Your blog looks brill, I look forward to following 🙂